The Coachability Conundrum: Can Everyone Be Coached?

Can everyone actually be coached? Most coaches answer yes by default. I don't think that's honest.

Coaching works when someone is willing to look at what isn't working and stay uncomfortable for a while before it gets better. That's a real filter, and not everyone clears it.

The case for it working

People who show up open usually do get real value: better decisions, steadier relationships, clearer thinking under pressure. I've watched it happen often enough that I'm obviously biased toward believing in the work.

The case against

Some people are more resistant to being told something uncomfortable than others, and that's not a character flaw, it's often shaped by what they've already been through. Someone who's been burned by harsh feedback before will guard themselves more, and pushing past that takes longer than a coach who assumes universal readiness expects.

Where most people actually land

Most people land somewhere in the middle: coachable about some things, closed off about others, on a given week. My job isn't to run everyone through the same program regardless. It's to meet you where you actually are and adjust from there.

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